How many times have you watched or listened to someone doing a great job and thought to yourself, "I really wish I could do that." Be honest, you have, haven't you? I know I have. It doesn't matter whether it's a public speaker, a sportsperson, a sales professional, a top negotiator, a hair dresser or a gardener; there are people out there who can do something really well and we admire them; we may even envy them that "talent." Sadly, most people never go beyond that stage of admiration and envy.
The truth is that "talent" is 99% hard work, practice and experience. A great example of this would be the legendary England star, David Beckham. Genius? Oh yes. But the number of hours of gruelling practice and relentless hard work that guy put into becoming that genius are what most people are not prepared to sacrifice.
Equally true is that if any one person can become great at something, then so can the majority of the rest of us, all things being equal. The key is not to envy them but to emulate them. Find out what they do and how they do it and replicate it.
The skill set of modelling behavioural excellence is one that I studied some years ago during my NLP journey and it has paid dividends over the years. Some of the key elements I discovered were:
* Don't just look at WHAT they do; understand WHY they do it
* Drill into the beliefs that support them and their excellence
* Explore the mental strategies they employ when things go right - and when they go wrong
* Identify and emulate the physical strategies and behaviours that they use; the little "rituals' that are actually putting them into the zone
* Practice, practice and practice, polishing what you learn from that practice
Once you have got the behaviour right, continue to practice it, polish out the imperfections and idiosyncrasies until you are on track to excellence yourself.
Is it easy? Yes, it is. Is it simple? No, it isn't. Is it worth the effort? Ask David Beckham. How can you do it? Ask Ralph Watson